Powerlessness is Freedom

Like many people, I feel very triggered by politics and politicians. That’s never been truer than over the past ten years for me.  

I’m not going to reveal my political leanings, because that’s not what this is about. It is about my recognition of my powerlessness. And how facing it has given me a sense of freedom that I have not felt in a very long time.  

As I was stressing my way through the millionth consecutive troubling news cycle, the realization finally hit me: I believed I had power over the politics and policies of our nation and world.  

But like just about everyone else, I don’t. I have my vote, I have my voice, and that is it. The President, my senators and congresshumans, literally anyone who has real political power does not know the thoughts in my head, the frustrations I feel, the stress and unhappiness elicited when something happens that I disagree with. 

Yet, I felt like I did have power. Like the intensity of my emotions and the correctness of my views could somehow make an impact on monumental world decisions.  So my frustration when things didn’t go my way was monumental, to the point where it impacted my mental health.

I guess I experienced the Five Stages of Grief. And I got pretty stuck on Anger, Depression and Bargaining. But each of those stages are steps on the journey, certainly not the destination.

The destination is Acceptance. And that means facing my powerlessness.

Yet when this happened, it opened up power. The power to invest the time, energy and emotion I had been wasting on my political disappointment and focus those on my job, my writing, my family and friends. Instead of unhealthy obsession, I am using my focus and thoughts to enhance my life.

I will never stop being interested in the world around me. But it’s not going to stop me from embracing my world.

Discovered by Tal Gur and Elevate Society

Dreams coming true! Author and motivator Tal Gur has discovered Tao of Thoreau. He published this amazing review, and granted me an interview.

This is the kind of opportunity I have only dreamed of before, and now this dream has come true! It has motivated me to keep chasing my goals and aspirations. Thank you Tal!

Jinxing Bad

My last two years of teaching were incredibly tough for me. For consecutive years, I had classes that were so challenging that it undermined my confidence in being a teacher. I genuinely questioned if I could continue. 

Good news! My classes are AMAZING this year. Maybe I’ll go into detail some other time, but this post isn’t about that. It’s about jinxing.  

I keep hesitating to describe my classes this year as good. This hesitancy comes from a fear that I will jinx it. As if somehow if I say it out loud, or write about it, then the good kids will turn bad, and my good year will turn sour. 

That’s when it occurred to me: why don’t we ever talk about jinxing bad things? We’re so sure we can ruin something good, why not try to jinx something bad?

Imagine! It would be like a superpower! Last year, I could have said, “Boy, my class is really bad! Hope I jinx it!” And then, just like that, I would walk into school the next day and my tough class would all be academic angels and behave perfectly.

If only. It wouldn’t work. But the good news is that it doesn’t work to jinx good things either. 

At least I hope not.  

All Water’s Moments

Well hello. I’ve been aiming my way back here for a long time. I’m sitting in my Writing Club with middle schoolers who are happily typing away on their own work. I was looking for something to work on when I stumbled upon this poem.

Do you ever have the experience of finding something you wrote long ago, and you say “Hey, wait, this is pretty good”? Well that’s what happened here. I hope you think so, too.

And I hope I’m back. Momentous things may be happening for my writing soon, and I’d love to share them with your!

All Water’s Moments

The stream is creating its course as it flows,  
not carving it
into the rocks and soil;
it is wearing them down,
so slowly and quickly
that it is happening in two
different
seconds.

This stream’s wet pattern is the laying of itself into the silt and stone,
ever creating and sustaining its path.
Thus it changes
always
now.

Thus it is creating the pattern of its own tone,
A tone made up of all its water and of all its moments:
Its great single sound
is a mingling of large and small waterfalls,
spigots,
ripples, V-shaped like bird migrations,
spouts and shallows;
water caught in rock-trap cataracts rasping and splashing,
water deep bass in shadowed crevices,
pouring so thick it is both clear and obscuring,
full flowing into the pool it is ever carving.

Only the dirt and rock can feel this streams underside, touch its other surface.
Unless I will lay in it,
dig myself down so the top of my skin
is even with the skin of the planet,
let the stream cover me
wet me,
yes, drown me,

But before that I will feel the sliding of its bottom water
On top of me.

But I will not,
because it is too cold,
and I would die.

In the ever-moments I have with this stream,
It lets me see a little of the slowness
that is hidden in its rushing,

All of its flickering frozen moments,
numberless as stars and pages.

It slows down only enough to define its slipping away.

And I see it dousing a stone, browning its tan rock skin,
And I see it part around a boulder, and the sound it makes
must be that of water tearing.

I see where the waterfall has caused a spout at its base,
so some of the water that funnels down
curves back up
and reaches its top and comes
down

so that splashes
jump

off

and I have to think it is playing, the water is playing, because if I follow a splash
down
I see it form,
bend out,
come apart and arc a diver’s curve,
and then there are so many others,
brief splashes,
about to fall back into the flow,
and I laugh,
which is why I think it’s playing,
because it’s not right to just stand by a stream
and laugh at water,
is it?

And it asks me,
in its stream language of gurgle and burble and moan,
and patter and drip,
Of low boom,
it asks, “can you see now
flowing by?”

and the sound drops back down, and there is the water, thin and fast, and there is Thoreau, of course, he’s always hanging around by the stream, and he says, “now now now now now now now now now now now now now,” until I just about hit him, and I’m about to shout, “I get it!” but he has that look on his face, the one he gets, and you realize that in that man’s mind he is only trying to teach you, and he is taking this seriously, but he also sees the humor in it, and the inherent absurdity, but also the incredible meaningfulness of it all, also that I am beneath his contempt, that we are just humble specks hurtling through space, that we are all one, and we are all separate, and how can you hit all that? I wouldn’t know where to aim.

In the Shadow of

Been a while since I did a TankaTuesday challenge. This one is to use the phrase “in the shadow of” with the task of creating contrasting imagery of real or metaphorical light and darkness.

In the shadow of of the sun, the moon waxes and wanes.
In the shadow of ambition, small achievements are lost to pride.
In the shadow of trees, shade provides cool shelter.
In the shadow of envy, what we have is lost to what we want.
In the shadow of loss, love's sad face is a mirror of what we miss.
In the shadow of the mountain, cool valleys grow by snow fed streams.
In the shadow of the moon, we remember that darkness is enlightened by stars.

Finding Oneness

When the relevance of numbers disappears, that’s oneness.  

I thought of this while walking a path bathed in yellow pine needles. With the word “bathed”, I’m trying to express the expanse of the needles. Pressed under my feet, stretching behind me and ahead. Blanketing the woods to either side. Surrounding me in every direction, even beyond my view.  

I think of the process of counting each one. I try to glimpse meaning beyond the absurdity of the task. Absurd because how long would it take to even count the number in ten square feet, never mind the huge expanse in Great Pond State Forest

When the relevance of numbers disappears, that’s oneness.  

My idea is attempting to express the woven unity of this carpet of needles. A vast, interlinked skein. Yes, made of individual shafts, but the repetition speaks to me a giant tan fabric. Is not fabric made of many threads connected? Many elements woven together to make one. 

Envisioning this helps me better understand the Taoist concept of merging the truth of individuality within the connection of totality. Losing numbers in this small world of pine needles connects me to the immense unity that I am a part of and apart from. 

Braver

I’m not always good at the struggle. Especially after 30 years of teaching, it can be really difficult to confront a misbehaving class and find constructive ways to change the situation. It’s stressful and exhausting. I mean, it’s like how many times do I have to overcome the same challenges.

At least one more time, I guess.

These lyrics were in my head this morning, and I’m so happy they were. They are from the song “Braver” by my favorite band 311. The dashed words are mine.

I know you say you're done
I know you wanna run
---- but I have to be ----
Braver, braver than anyone
Braver than anyone
Braver than anyone

I’m presently teaching a class that makes me want to say I’m done, and makes me want to run. But of course, neither is possible unless I quit.

The day I wanted 
To walk away, leave teaching
Inspired progress

Instead of walking away, I had to be brave. It’s has taken bravery to bring my administrators in on the problem. In my early career, it was risky to admit that you were having a hard time with a group. It felt like you were risking your job. Now, the model has changed, and the admin is supposed to advise without evaluating the teacher negatively. It’s also brave to confront a problem that seems to have no solution.

Brave enough to change
Courage to admit weakness
Find a better way

Getting advice and talking openly with my students has given me insight into ways that the problems can be fixed. And that we can do it together. Bravery isn’t temporary; it has to become the way.

Thanks to tankstuesday for this challenge!

A Little Negativity for Tanka Tuesday

The challenge on TankaTuesday this week was to use synonyms for promise and comfort. My mind did not go to it’s usual happy place, so enjoy a bit of a downer.

Some things can't be soothed.
A broken vow can't be fixed.
Safety is shattered.
The pledge's soothing assurance
Split into sharp edged pieces.

Macbeth Witch’s Brew Tanka

I used these ingredients from Macbeth to create my witch’s brew tanka for Tanka Tuesday: Eye of newt, toe of frog, tongue of dog, owl’s wing, adders fork and blind worms sting.

Newt pirate eye patch
A cane for the frog to match!
No more yelping dog:
Its tongue licking owl wing,
Adders fork and blind worms sting.