A few years back I shifted from doing New Year’s resolutions to selecting a type of mantra. I chose a single word to help me improve and give me a mindset for the year to come.
My word this year is “Present.” As in being present in the moment.
I’ve known that I’m supposed to be present for a long time. It’s just been difficult for me to do. This is mainly because I have trained my brain to intellectualize life. As a young person, I escaped into dreams because I didn’t like reality. As I grew older and accepted my life, this transformed to turning events into metaphors, pondering ideas, and fantasizing about my life even while I am living it.
It’s a hard habit to break, partly because I have done it for so long, partly because I enjoy it.
My way of thinking is not to abandon this and replace it with being present. It’s simply to add more being present to my life.
Why? Presence is power. I will notice details that I miss if I was spacing out about something else. I will act in the moment, which is the right time to act.
Presence is the flow. It’s hard to go with the flow on the ground when my head is in the clouds. I will know where I am and see where I’m going.
Presence is professional. I will be a better teacher and colleague if I am in the moment and attentive to the ideas and needs of those around me. I will be more adaptive and creative in my work.
Presence is love. Being present with people let them know on a deep level that I care, that I am not just there for them, but I am there with them. And it is loving myself, being able to enjoy the moments I am in, instead of being in pretend places.
By the way, I distracted myself three time with my phone while I was writing this.
Presence is a work in progress.
